Do In-laws, relatives, friends, others’ drilling questions complicate your life?

Stop gossiping. Don't start the grapevine. Talk on general topics. Don't get involved. Don't pull threads or debate. Your orthodox in-laws may never converge with your independent and contemporary attitude. If you are staying at distance from these people, you may easily minimize the frequency of calling or visiting, telling them that you are busy with some or the other stuff. If staying among such people (phew!)... Soon find avenues outside to keep you busy and healthy. Picking up the calls of too intrusive and interrogative people? You know what "Caller ID" is for! People who touch upon sensitive issues repeatedly, you can amicably tell them to not discuss on the subject. Still nasty, just avoid them. Don't be afraid to say "No" to the things you may not like to do. Your partner may find the things harmless if you do them to please everyone. But if you are going to carry the load of negativity on you, he better be alarmed of the stress of the person he has to live with! If you take time being indecisive for any family event/get together…that will also add to your stress. If feel like, pay a short visit, else drop it altogether, doing a more recreational thing for yourself. Don't even revisit your decisions. Do any get-togethers, social occasions give you a whole lot of crap as "take away", rather than entertaining or lightening you up. You may choose to go lean about them and explore better ways of having fun- Travelling, movies, cultivating hobbies or your own group of like-minded people. Some people are too naive and simple to find any excuse. While to some it would be so casual to tell their preference upfront. You can choose to be in the latter category and care less about people whose business is anyways to keep preparing report and feedback on others' conduct. Remember a little selfish approach can keep you healthier and your relations with your partner happier. Close or distant people are not going to be there for the whole life, but your partner. Maintaining a distant smile and greeting is better than being close and having frictions and losing your mental peace. Stop suffering and take charge for your emotional well being.

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Divya Narain

|2012-04-24 05:29:29

Couldn't agree more. I feel that intrusive people who need to put others down to
feel better about themselves find easier preys in women. Men are never expected
to conform or socialize with relatives if they choose not to.

May peace be with you my friend

Richa - golden words of wisdom!!!

|2009-06-07 21:20:10

socialization is important for general well-being but if it only brings more
negativity into your life, its better to limit interaction with people who don't
seem to be your well wishers. This article gives useful tips and practical
advice for dealing with stress caused by people around you. very well written
!!!!